New entry about my grief journey!

God is so good. Grief does come in stages and when an entire family is hit by a tragedy, I believe grief comes at different stages for each person. When we lost Beth, if we (all four of us) had been in the same stage of grief at the same time there is no way that we could have coped. Shock, denial, anger, barganing, depression-----many stages------and if we had all been angry at the same time---this would not have been good. I think each person, depending on age and life's experiences, and where you are at the time of the tragedy-----all determines what grief will look like for you. My husband has already attended 2 (I think 12 week) sessions of Grief Share which he has found invaluable. I have learned some things along side him but I have not yet attended any groups. A few things I have learned after losing my Beth and about grief: "lean into your grief"---------don't try to run from it; there is "secondary grief"-----grieving the loss of what will never be; it is hard "because it is hard"; when I want to crawl into bed and pull the covers over my head --this is ok because "God is under the covers, too"; "I have felt troubled" but God says "let not your hearts be troubled"--and that Jesus had gone to HEAVEN "to prepare a place for me"-----you see---he knew we would be troubled by loss and he knew our hearts would be troubled and he reassures us and gives us HOPE that there is a place where we will see each other again in HEAVEN!!!!! Wow!!!!!! Thanks God--for once again running ahead for us!!!!